Better Than Sex Cake

When my mother-in-law asked me to make a Better Than Sex Cake for my father-in-law’s birthday, I had to laugh. I’d heard of the recipe for years — mostly because my sister-in-law made it a long time ago, and everyone still talks about how good it was.

Apparently, it’s one of my father-in-law’s favorites, especially with the chocolate cake and crunchy toffee bits.

So, when the birthday came around, I figured it was time to finally try it myself.

And let me just say… this cake is dangerously good.

It starts with a simple box of chocolate cake mix, but once you poke holes in it and pour over the sweetened condensed milk and caramel sauce, something magical happens.

The cake soaks it all up, turning into a rich, gooey masterpiece that’s somewhere between cake and candy.

Then you spread on whipped topping and cover it with crushed Heath bars for that perfect toffee crunch.

But… Is It Really Better Than Sex?

Now, let’s be honest — that’s a pretty big claim for a dessert to make.

I’ll say this: it’s definitely one of those cakes that makes you close your eyes for a second after the first bite.

Rich chocolate, creamy caramel, sweet milk, and that buttery toffee crunch — it’s the kind of dessert that gets talked about for years (clearly!).

Better than sex? Well… that’s up for debate. But it’s definitely better than any cake mix has a right to be.

If you’re planning a family gathering or birthday dinner, this combo makes a delicious menu everyone will love:

Complete Meal Idea:

• Main: Maid Rite Sandwiches
• Appetizer: Caramelized Onion Chip Dip
• Dessert: Better Than Sex Cake

You can swap in any of your favorite dips, sides, or sandwiches, but trust me — this cake steals the show every time.

Why You’ll Love This Cake

• Rich and gooey: Moist chocolate cake soaked with sweetened condensed milk and caramel makes every bite decadent.
• Crunchy toffee topping: Crushed Heath, Skor bars or Heath Toffee Bits add the perfect sweet-and-crunchy contrast.
• Easy to make: Uses a simple box mix but tastes like a show-stopping homemade dessert.
• Make-ahead friendly: Chill overnight for stress-free serving at birthdays, holidays, or special occasions.
• Crowd-pleaser: Everyone will ask for seconds—and maybe even thirds!

What is Better Than Sex Cake?

If you’ve never heard of it before, Better Than Sex Cake is a classic chocolate poke cake that became popular in the 1980s and 1990s.

It’s made by baking a chocolate cake, poking holes in it, and then pouring sweetened condensed milk and caramel sauce over the top so they soak right in.

Once it’s chilled, it’s topped with whipped topping and crushed toffee bars (like Heath or Skor).

The name is a playful one — it’s not meant to be taken too seriously. People just called it that because it’s so rich and decadent that it makes you stop and say, “Oh wow.”

It’s also sometimes called Almost Better Than Sex Cake, Better Than Anything Cake, or even Heath Bar Cake — but no matter what you call it, it’s absolutely delicious.

Ingredients

• Devil’s Food cake mix
• Eggs
• Vegetable oil
• Water
• Sweetened condensed milk
• Caramel sauce
• Whipped topping or homemade whipped cream
• Heath toffee bits

How to make Better Than Sex Cake

Preheat your oven according to the chocolate cake mix instructions.

Grease a 9×13-inch baking pan.

Prepare the chocolate cake mix according to the package directions (usually combining the mix with eggs, oil, and water).

Pour the batter into the prepared pan.

Bake the cake as directed on the box, or until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean.

While the cake is still warm, use the handle of a wooden spoon to poke holes all over the top of the cake.

Pour sweetened condensed milk evenly over the cake, letting it soak into the holes.

Pour caramel sauce evenly over the top.

Cover the cake and refrigerate for at least 2 hours, or overnight if possible, so it’s thoroughly chilled and the flavors meld.

Spread thawed whipped topping or freshly made whipped cream evenly over the cooled cake.

Sprinkle crushed Heath Toffee Bits generously over the top.

Drizzle caramel sauce over the cake.

Slice, serve, and enjoy every rich, gooey bite!